It’s hard to believe it’s been nine years since I walked down the aisle on my daddy’s arm to marry this man. We were so young, so in love and so excited to begin our journey together. If I could go back and tell these two lovebirds anything, it would be this:
You have no idea what God has in store for you!
God created you to be partners on the journey He laid out for you, and there’s no one else who could endure that exact road together. So when storms come – and they will come – remember God put someone beside you to share your umbrella with.
Pay attention when you say your vows, because they are far more than just words.
The good times make you feel as if your heart could explode and the bad times will often seem unbearable. You will care for each other through all the sickness – flashing a reassuring smile before a surgical procedure, serving chicken noodle soup and Gatorade to remedy the flu and even sleeping on a pallet on the floor together when it is the only way one of you can be comfortable. Don’t take for granted God’s gift of good health. Be thankful for each nutritious meal, a good night’s rest and the ability to get out of bed every day and stand on your own two feet. Even though every day may not be good, there is something good in every day.
Love isn’t always a fairytale.
There will be days when your love story will feel like a fairytale romance. But more often, love is found in ordinary, everyday moments. Love is when you fix your spouse coffee in the morning because you know they stayed up late working to meet a deadline. It’s when you take care of both of the kids at 6 a.m. on a Saturday so your spouse can sleep in. It’s picking up dirty laundry off the floor, cleaning up after dinner or putting both kids to bed without complaining. Love is what makes ordinary moments seem extraordinary.
If you think you love each other now, just wait until you have kids!
Nothing will make you swoon like the sight of your spouse having a tea party, dancing in the kitchen or playing tickle monster with your children. It’s those moments where all dignity goes out the window and you are singing Disney songs at the top of your lungs with your toddler that make you fall even more in love with each other.
Raising tiny humans is the hardest, most rewarding job you will ever have.
You will never really be ready to have kids, and no matter how prepared you may feel, parenting is tough stuff. But the good news is you’re in it together! There will be days where you get to work on time, you pick up your kids from school and hear they were perfect angels all day, you come home to a spotless house, you all sit down at the table at the same time to eat a nutritious dinner, and both kids go to bed on time so you can enjoy a glass of wine together and talk about your day. Days like that are rare little gems, so cherish them when they occur. Because most days it will take a miracle to get everyone out the door in the morning, work will keep you so busy that your kids are the last ones to be picked up from school, your house looks like your losing a game of Jumanji, your kids eat puffs and applesauce for dinner (true story – this will happen the night before your nine-year anniversary) and by the time you manage to get them to bed (unbathed), you will to stumble into your room, collapse on your bed and say hello to each other for the first time since breakfast. It’s a good thing those two kids are so cute!
Love isn’t easy, but it’s worth it.
In your marriage, you will face hard times. You will experience loss. You will make tough decisions. You will take leaps of faith. There will be arguments, tears, regret and apologies. But there will also be joy, excitement, surprises and laughter – oh, so much laughter. You will set out on new adventures together. You will do things you never thought possible. You will cheer for each other, depend on each other and love each other like never before. And when you look back, you will realize that the hard times are just a fraction of the journey, and that your life is filled with more blessings than you ever dreamed it would be on this day nine years ago.
Happy anniversary to my partner in crime. It’s fun doing life with you!